How many times do I hear patients complaining about their environment, people around them, friends, partners…?
Our environment is the mirror of our inner world and reality. How can we expect to have the right surrounding if we are not true to ourselves and others? We have the friends, the partners, and the boss that we deserve. If you want to change your surroundings, change how honest you are both with yourself and those around you. Don’t try to be somebody else or you will have somebody else’s friends, partner and boss!
We are like a puzzle piece and our we have a specific purpose. We are a corner or a piece of sky or whatever else but, if we are not true and honest, we can’t be at the right spot on the puzzle. This then puts the rest of the puzzle out of place as you are taking someone else’s place and so the cycle continues…..
If we embrace, respect and love who we really are the world around us will change accordingly and, little by little, the big puzzle will change and the big picture will appear.
Genuine, beneficial change can only happen if you are genuinely honest with yourself. Accepting who we are is the safest and quickest way to evolve and grow.
The more you are true to yourself, the more you will see people that you do not really like disappear and new people appear. Perhaps will you see someone appear around you that can become your partner, your new boss or a great friend?
How can you be yourself? Well, the simplest answer is to work on yourself and try to listen. Do you say ‘No’ when you want to, or do you answer according to how those around you might react? That’s your first step in the right direction! What is the real you? Are you faking reactions? Do you pretend it doesn’t matter when someone hurts you? You can express the fact that it hearts and it will not make you appear weak or overly sensitive. It takes courage to express your emotions.
Your life could be very different if you would really commit to yourself and to what makes you happy instead of spending so much energy trying to please others.
The puzzle is waiting to become a lovely picture and you can help the collective process by truly helping yourself.
This article was written by Denis Gorce-Bourge of www.gblifecoaching.com International Executive Coach, Trainer and Psychotherapist.
